Lab Rat in......Life

When something bad happens and people don’t know what to say or do to make things better we tend to turn to the words of others to find comfort, aphorisms or platitudes, that was certainly true when I was diagnosed and I find myself doing the same things whenever my friends or family are dealing with difficult situations. “In darkness look for stars” “when it rains look for rainbows” “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade” etc etc. Sometimes these words bring comfort and other times they are downright annoying, generally though I found them helpful, even if not true, I found comfort in the fact that people wanted to help and make me feel better. It might just be easier to say “This is sh*t and I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this” but not everyone is built that way. I’m not a particularly religious person but I have always tried to cling on to the belief that everything happens for a reason, a belief that has become harder and harder to maintain over the years, I still try...